"Some things are in our control, and others not."
This opening line of "The Enchiridion" by Epictetus is a favorite, chiefly because it is both easy to remember as well as widely applicable. It also forms the foundation of everything Epictetus sought to teach; know it, and you will know a good deal of what Epictetus hoped you would learn from him. For in life our energy, ability, and time is limited. To those things over which we have control those scarce resources must be rendered, while to those many things over which we have no control those scarce resources must be spared. For Epictetus, a philosopher considers his or her life with this idea in mind, discerning honestly which things are within his or her control, and which things are not.
The purpose of this consideration is to embrace the freedom to dedicate one's self only to those things over which one has control.
"The things in our control are by nature free, unrestrained, unhindered; but those not in our control are weak, slavish, restrained, belonging to others. Remember, then, that if you suppose that things which are slavish by nature are also free, and that what belongs to others is your own, then you will be hindered. You will lament, you will be disturbed, and you will find fault both with gods and men. But if you suppose that only to be your own which is your own, and what belongs to others such as it really is, then no one will ever compel you or restrain you. Further, you will find fault with no one or accuse no one. You will do nothing against your will. No one will hurt you, you will have no enemies, and you not be harmed."
The exercise is not always easy, but may allow one to look at things in a new light, or as Epictetus said, "...to every harsh appearance [one may say], 'You are but an appearance, and not absolutely the thing you appear to be.'"
Something to bear in mind maybe, should you feel overwhelmed.
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